Me with braids on one side and spiraled twists on the other.
Lately, I’ve noticed more and more women are taking the plunge and going natural. I have been natural for about 5 years now, but this is not my first trip down natural lane.
In 2003 during my deployment to Iraq, I cut my long, relaxed hair off with a Leatherman Micra. After six touch-up free months I got tired of trying to comb and detangle it in the in between state, so I did what most natural sisters call a BC or big chop. There I was in the shower snip, snip, snipping. I went in a mop head and emerged a sponge head. I never felt more free and scared at the same time. While I loved it, I feared what others would think about it. With the encouragement of my battle buddies, who were also natural, I wore it proudly. Besides, I didn’t have to worry too much about being cute in the desert. Now coming back home was a different story.
When I came home I got a mixture of reactions: some loved it, others hated it. It got to a point where I began to question whether or not I had made the right decision in cutting it. After about a year-and-a-half of being natural I gave into the pressure, the questions, and the plain ol’ ridicule and relaxed it. Boy, did I regret it. I regretted it so much that I had nightmares about it. I missed my kinky texture and all the different things I could do with it: twist it, fro it, straighten it, bantu knot it, comb twist it, etc. Relaxed hair looked nice, but it felt boring to me. Sure, there were days that I was not pleased with the look of my natural hair (bad hair days), but I also had bad hair days with a relaxer.
It wasn’t long (actually about six months) before I decided once again to go natural. Only this time I grew it out gradually instead of doing the BC. When I finally had cut off all the relaxed ends of my hair, there were still naysayers trying to discourage my decision. Can you believe someone actually told me that I wouldn’t be able to get a husband with my hair natural unless I went to Africa?! I mean really? Is hair an issue that is too hard for God? Obviously not, since I am married now in all my natural glory. Now run and tell that!
Although the transition was rough, it was definitely worth it. I don’t miss a relaxer at all. When I look in the mirror I see a beautiful woman with her own sense of style and uniqueness. I wouldn’t go back to a relaxer if you paid me. There’s just something about it unlike anything else. So I’ve compiled a top ten list of reasons why anyone considering going natural should. I’d say once you go nappy, you’ll always be happy. All my naturalistas can let me know if I’m right or not or add your own reasons.
This is me wearing two-strand twists for the first time. I was draped in a towel, trying to be cute in Iraq. Shout out to Jennifer Brown for twisting it for me.
This is me two years after transitioning to natural the second time around. Lovin' it!
