It breaks my heart when I see women settling for men who aren’t man enough to marry them. Many of these women are raising their children and putting up with nonsense on top of that. I guess it’s a burden that God put in my heart for the spiritual success of young women. Now, it is easy to sit here and point the finger at the men, blaming them for every child born out of wedlock and raised by a single mother, but the fact of the matter is they did not make those babies alone. A very consenting woman was involved in the process as well. Before you think that I am being judgmental, let me share with you that I am a product of that type of situation. I was raised by a single mother and as I understand it, she too put up with her share of foolishness from my father before I was born. Everyone makes mistakes, right? True. Which is why Jesus Christ, the Righteous, died for us.
I met a woman recently who when hearing about the subject of my book “Wait on God” asked me, “Why aren’t I married?” Now this particular young lady already has children with the man in her life and it would seem as if they have a happy family. Yet, she wonders why she’s not married. Of course, I cannot answer that question for her, but I can speculate that one reason is because she has not required that level of commitment in her relationship. Perhaps she has asked him about it or hinted at the subject a time or two, but she has not truly required that level of commitment to the point of putting her foot down, issuing an ultimatum, and sticking to it. Bottom line is…If you want better you have to do better. And doing better means NO MORE SETTLING!
NO MORE SETTLING for men with no character–to put it plainly, dishonest, untrustworthy, unreliable, irresponsible, and self-serving men. NO MORE SETTLING for not exercising godly character in your own life. NO MORE SETTLING for ungodly and spiritually unsatisfying relationships that focus only on the physical. NO MORE SETTLING for someone who puts you in compromising situations to accommodate his own selfish desires. My dear sister, the only things that need settling once and for all are your belief in God’s ability to bless you with the love you need and your belief that you are worth more than you’ve been allowing from the men in your life. Once you are convinced of your worth, it won’t be as difficult to resist mistreatment from anybody. God is not going to give you to someone who cannot see your worth and treat you accordingly.
To settle for less than God’s best for you is to agree with the enemy that you’re not worth the effort and that the sacrifice that Christ made for you was worthless. My God! That couldn’t be farther from the truth! To Christ, YOU ARE WORTH every nail that pierced his flesh, YOU ARE WORTH every thorn that pressed into his brow, YOU ARE WORTH every drop of blood that flowed from His veins, YOU were WORTH DYING FOR! Your abundant life of peace, blessing, and wholeness was worth every bit of His sacrifice as well. So why settle for a life of emotional lack in your romantic relationships when your life of abundance has already been purchased by the blood of Jesus Christ? Woman of God, I encourage you to begin if you haven’t or continue if you have already begun, to trust God for all of the good things He’s made available to you in His Word; for He is faithful that promised! Don’t settle for trifles when you are entitled to treasure!
